Use your words coaching
1–2 yearsFamily ConnectionNo materials needed
When your child whines, cries, or grabs during a conflict, gently say 'Use your words' and then model the words they need. For example, say 'Say help please' or 'Say more please.' Wait a moment to see if they'll try, then help them. This teaches that words are more effective than upset behaviors for getting needs met.
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How to Do This Activity
When your child whines, cries, or grabs during a conflict, gently say 'Use your words' and then model the words they need. For example, say 'Say help please' or 'Say more please.' Wait a moment to see if they'll try, then help them. This teaches that words are more effective than upset behaviors for getting needs met.
Why It Works
Between 12-24 months, children are in a language explosion period, moving from one-word to two-word phrases. Rich language input during conflicts directly supports language development while teaching peaceful communication. Children who learn to use words to express frustration rather than physical actions show 30% better emotional regulation and relationship maintenance (Shantz, 1987). Early training in using language for problem-solving leads to significantly better peer relationships and 25% fewer behavioral problems (Webster-Stratton & Reid, 2004).
Tips for Parents
Give them the exact words to use. At this age, they need you to provide the script.
Celebrate any attempt to use words, even if it's just a sound. You're building a new skill gradually.
Materials Needed
None
Learning Methods
Language-Rich EnvironmentImitation and Modeling
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